When it comes to women, I have a tendency to want to “save her.” It's called “white knight syndrome.”The phrase was made famous by psychologists Marilyn Krieger and Mary Lumia in their 2008 book by the same name. I find out she is struggling with some sort of flaw (and a major flaw at that). I try to help her heal and cope with whatever she's struggling with.It's simply defined as having a destructive need to rescue others (usually from themselves). Most of the time, she doesn't even know she possesses said flaw, so I'm pretty much spending all my time trying to simultaneously convince her of her flaw and fix it.Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick!Some forums can only be seen by registered members.
I think the guys who fall into this category eventually grow out of it.He's probably come to a woman's rescue a few too many times only to end up taken for granted.Or worse, the woman ditches him for the guy who doesn't treat her as well as he did, leading him to conclude no woman is worth helping.No, not all of my exes or love interests were crazy by any means.But they all had one thing in common: a (sometimes fatal) flaw that pulled me closer to them.
Your continued efforts to rescue your partner allow you to avoid and deny your own feelings of helplessness, despair, depression, or yearning that psychologists have described as the negative counterparts of hope.