When one parent dies and the remaining parent begins dating or marries someone else, it can be very hard for the adult child to accept, no matter how soon after the death it occurs.Partly that is because you may be feeling a need to remain loyal to your mother and respectful of her memory, and you may be worried that your father will cease to remember and love this irreplaceable person you both have lost.Reassure them The parent that the child has loved from birth can never be replaced by another person.Explain to your kid that you understand this perfectly and are not trying to bring a substitute for Mum or Dad who is no more.And, if it helps you to grieve the loss of your mother to not meet this woman right now, I think you are entitled to that and should not have to meet her yet. But again, in my opinion I believe in order for you to grieve as you need to, then you do not have to meet this woman right now. And so none of us can say your father is doing it the right or wrong way - he has to do it his own way.
The feelings you’re having toward your dad in the aftermath of your mother’s death are understandable.i can't help but feel that in some ways my dad moving on so quickly is disrespectful to my mom's memory, but i don't want to hurt his feelings either. Oh wow, that does seem like he started dating quickly...At just 2 months, I wonder how fair it is to that woman, as it seems doubtful your father even had time to fully grieve the loss of your mother yet. while your father has every right to do what he needs to do in order to get through this, I also believe you do as well.The worst part of it was, I couldn't even complain. In the first couple of years after my parents' divorce, I resisted the idea of their being with anyone but each other.But seeing my father lonely was even worse, and after 12 years without my mother it was time for him to move on.
The older the children are, the larger their store of memories with the departed parent and thus the more difficult to convince them that your dating others does not mean that you are looking for a replacement of their departed parent.