Whatever stage you and your teen are going through in discussing and learning about dating violence — whether you want to teach them about healthy relationships for the future, or you’re concerned with a relationship they are currently in and want to give them advice — there are plenty of resources that can be really helpful.
One winter day during my junior year, I found out that he had cheated on me again. He became enraged as I walked away to my class but he didn't follow me. In that moment, I had two choices: I could either sit there and continue to be belittled in front of everyone because he wasn't going to leave, and nobody else was going to say or do anything, or I could walk out and be shamed anyway because I had given into his threats. As we walked down the hall, he spit in my face, pulled my necklace off my neck, threw it in the trashcan and he threw me up against the lockers. Mine is a story of emotional, psychological, and physical abuse.
Dating violence crosses all socio-economic, ethnic, cultural, and religious lines. Offer to go with your friend for professional help.
Dating violence occurs in heterosexual and gay and lesbian relationships. Never put yourself in a dangerous situation with the victim’s partner.
You do not deserve to feel disrespected or unsafe in your relationships.
If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. You can call our confidential 24-hour Hotline at 1.800.895.8476.
The signs weren't obvious, especially to a 14 year-old, but it began with him telling me he didn't like the shirts I wore, or that my skirt was too short; at the time, it was easy to mistake jealousy and control for adoration.