We avoid the "absent boyfriend"—the guy who stays at the office until 10 pm at night, rarely returns our calls, and repeats the refrain about being "too busy right now"—so let's not model our behavior on theirs. These are important factors to long-term happiness, so don't feel obligated to continue dating someone who doesn't share your values.
I myself was a victim of this until I recognized my part in this process and then I began dating and eventually married a man who treats me the way I deserve. Let go of the self defeating thoughts holding you back. However, the weird part was that I wasn't a weak and stupid woman; I was a smart woman. I had lots of friends, a good job, and a nice home.I was successful in life in a lot of ways, The kinds of things that matter in love aren't necessarily the things that matter when it comes to having a great career or a busy social calendar.I see women who continually find men who, for whatever reason, never step up to treat them the way they deserve. I realized that it had very little to do with the men, but more to do with how the women approached dating.