Maybe he's just a gruff badass with a heart of gold, like Jason Borne if Jason Borne didn't look and act like Matt Damon.4. He wants the moment to be special, like when you've just had sex Taco Bell.6. His heart's screaming, "I'M IN LOOOOVE," but the rational parts of his brain are thinking, "It's too soon, bro," and also it's weird that his inner monologue addresses him as "bro."7. Some guys think saying, "I love you," first makes them all wimpy.
If it's early in the relationship, he might just need time, or maybe he just sees it as a casual fling.
Believe me, he says, "I'd love to say she is my girlfriend but I don't want to put her off." The caginess seems to apply to both men and women. He would wait SIX MONTHS before saying 'I love you'. It follows then, that we are losing a sense of our real selves, of our real opinions, of our real feelings.
I ask him, on the off-chance that, you know, he might just love this girl, when would be the appropriate time to tell her? A romantic evening sunset and bottle of rose on the beach? We have a public-facing opinion where we're happy to share what we had for breakfast, the fact we hate so-and-so but simply love skinny dipping and downing shots – or whatever – but when it comes to our true emotions, we are guarded. But then he had known me already for about a year and so had, I guess, developed these feelings 'behind the scenes'. Him saying it so early on, no strings attached, gave me the control, the confidence, of being able to wait a bit until I said it back, safe in the knowledge he meant it and I knew where he stood.
They are from all walks of life — ballplayers, actors, truck drivers, insurance salesmen, guys I worked in the factory with when I was at Ford motors, and my father. e Harmony: So how are you friends reacting to your giving away their secrets?
I found that we teach this thought process to our sons. Steve Harvey: All of my friends are really cool with it.
In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man Harvey reveals what men really think about love, relationships and commitment — and how women can tell if they have a man with whom they can make plans, or a man who is just playing with them.