By Tara Lynne Groth Divorce is the end of a relationship, but how soon should divorced dads introduce the next relationship to their children?
“The tendency is to be very excited that you’ve met someone you really like—especially after a tough divorce.
"You assume your kids understand that mom needs a life outside of them. "He asked about him almost daily, for months," she says. The problem is not that they get attached to a new person, but that exposure to a parade of new people creates the potential for more loss."At its heart, this is about trust," says psychologist Leah Klungness of Long Island, who specializes in single-parent issues.
They don't."Mistakes 2, 3, and 4:* Introducing her children to the first man she liked.* Allowing him to spend time at the house, especially playing ball with her son, then 8.* Giving him a peck on the cheek one day as they parted. Children are likely to wonder, "Who can I count on to stay around? " Some blame themselves: "I'm not lovable." The more loss there is, the more distrustful they can become, including in their own future relationships.
As time progresses and the responsibilities of life settle in, dating soon proves to be a stressful, downright scary chore.
When you finally have the courage and time to begin seriously dating, matchmaking experts remind us that the typical dating “rules” of our youth no longer apply.
By the time a parent finds someone to commit to, they may be adamantly resistant.