I do agree, that abortion or no abortion, I cant see a relationship working out.While I understand the reality of the situation (and that you've only been together a month), why are you assuming your relationship is through? Or is it that this situation has brought to light where you see this relationship going?
" My response was my standard one: "Get back to me in three months." If I've learned one valuable thing from the dating whirligig I've been on for the last six years (give or take six months here or there), it's that you must wait at least three months before getting excited about the long-term possibilities of a new person.The Frisky: 30 things every woman should quit doing by 30 I don't want to sound cynical or jaded.I totally believe in love for myself and my friends, but what I believe in more is that it takes a really long time to get to know someone and it's a complicated process.Your object of desire is laden with fantasies and projections. That's why I always say to myself, to my friends, and to you, single people, check in after three months and tell me how great the new person you're dating is.I think it takes about three months to strip away the layers and start to see this person for who they really are. " The more and less obvious discoveries about another are made in that three-month period. Do they want to hang out once a week or six times a week and does that mesh with what you want? If everything is still coming up roses, maybe I'll dance a jig with you.
I can't even count the number of times that I or a friend started dating someone and days or even weeks later found out there was something seriously messed up about him. " "Oh, you just got out of a 10-year relationship last week? That's stuff you need to know before you move forward. But it might take me six months to a year before I'm buying this "my future husband" business.