If you are entertaining toxic, stale, or even dead relationships just for the sake of being in a relationship, you are only allowing someone to fill a space that God has pre-selected for someone else. It is important that both of you set boundaries and stick to them.This bothered me, so when I got married, I carried this defensive attitude into my marriage.If you seek to enter into a relationship with an unbeliever not only is it wrong, you will regret it, and you will be hurt. There are so many things in this world that help you deceive yourself. In a relationship you both are going to learn from each other, but the woman takes the submissive role and the man takes the leadership role. Is he living in godliness and seeking to obey the Word? If the person claims to be Christian, but lives like an unbeliever God didn’t send you that person. No type of ungodly person can do God’s will in marriage. Many people think they are in love for reasons such as the person’s looks, communication skills, etc. Do you believe God has called you to commit your life to this person in marriage? For example, sex, physical attraction, looking at other couples, constantly listening to love music, fear, constantly watching love movies, etc.8. That’s his precious little daughter that you want to take out. Listen to her, respect her, and always keep her into consideration. If you’re going to be a leader you have to know the Scriptures to teach God’s daughter. I am not saying that you should not be attracted to the person who you are dating because you should be. Is God working in his life and making him more like Christ? In our culture the way we find a marriage partner is through dating.This whole ritual of boyfriends and girlfriends is littered with potential pitfalls, which means that very few people escape the process unscathed.
The world teaches that you are supposed to put your kids and your parents before your spouse. We are so quick to say I believe the Lord has given me this person. If the person is not Christian, then the Lord didn’t give you that person. Many people get into relationships and when they break up they find out that they were not really in love. Not only are you to lead each other by the way you live your life, but you have to worship together. You will start saying, “maybe I’m too this, maybe I’m too that, maybe I need to start looking like this, maybe I need to buy that.” That is idolatry and of the devil. He wants you to keep on knocking and one day He is going to say, “enough, you want it? Dating, as exciting as it is, is also a huge responsibility.As you date you need to keep in mind that the girlfriends that you have are, first and foremost, daughters of God.Yet to pray with an eternal, rather than momentary perspective, we need to come alongside what God is doing rather than require that He come alongside our shortsighted desires.As I've chatted with other praying moms, I've found I'm not alone in learning to trust God's will while I pray for His intervention in my children's lives.
That desire isn't necessarily bad, but it can cause even a noble prayer to evolve into a misguided request.