Who do you know who would not react in a negative, or destructive way?
It is crazy to imagine that will help anything, in any way.
Over the past decade, she’s tried ten websites, had dates with 40 men and chatted — online or over the phone — to countless other potential suitors.
But after one serious heartbreak and hundreds of pounds spent on subscription fees, love still eludes her.‘In many ways, internet dating is a great way to meet people, but it’s such a whirlwind of highs and lows,’ she says.
I met all sorts of people, from all over the world, older and younger, and each seemingly as desperate for a true connection as I. Should I be blaming my mother, or my – mostly absent – father for feeling that something was eternally missing? I was born to a woman that didn't much want children, and who fell foul to postnatal depression a good couple of decades before the term was even coined.
And for a while at least, it all felt harmless and innocent, and fun. My father leaving didn't help, and for the first six months of my life I was placed with a notional "auntie", a family friend who became my surrogate mother throughout my childhood.
My husband is more interested in the super bowl than in me and has once again forgotten to bring the soda along?
But is this a trend that could change the very nature of romance and turn long-term commitment into a thing of the past? There is striking evidence to suggest that the web is causing social change.
Traditionally, women might have had one or two boyfriends before getting married; now, they are encouraged to date lots of people in a quest to find a perfect partner.
Flirting exchanges, chat rooms, news groups, online role-playing, and social networks – wherever one looks, everywhere alternatives to vanilla sex at home.
It was never any easier to experience the security of a real relationship and the titillation of flirting and cheating at the same time.
When you discover your husband using online dating sites, you will automatically imagine the worst, that he is following through and is probably meeting other women. That is probably not happening, and it is not too late for your marriage, even if it is. Reactions, as you recall from biology, are instinctive responses with one purpose: to save your life.