You can say to yourself when you feel that familiar anxiety, “Oh, I’m just having an Attraction Moment. In fact, if she knows it’s a result of my attraction towards her, even better!”This is because if a woman feels like she’s having that effect on you, she becomes more excited and intrigued.They definitely don’t like a guy who’s shy in the first conversation and shy after that too. They’re more sensitive and caring and girls like their company.Now almost all the time, even the shyest of guys open up after a couple of conversations, so you don’t have to worry there. But to fall for a guy, there are three things that a girl needs in a boyfriend material.You’ll never come home exhausted from work and feel like you have to nonstop gab right away. Shyness is p strongly correlated to modesty, and if you don’t ask him for details on how his big pitch at work went, he’ll probably skirt right over it.You can both cuddle without the crushing pressure of filling every minuscule gap in a conversation. The bigger the accomplishment, the more your convo feels like 20 questions. And you’re constantly learning crazy huge chunks of information about him. He’ll also ask you things no one else ever thought to. Because he’s not the type to interject a lot (or, at all), bigger group settings make him seem like all he’s secretly roasting everyone in his head between every silent, polite nod. Because he’s so shy, the people who end up being his closest friends are usually the kinder, more patient people who won’t immediately write off that person standing awkwardly by themselves at a party.
Anxiety feels vulnerable, and many men think that showing any anxiety at all makes them look weak or less attractive. In fact, there are four reasons why a bit of anxiety actually makes women MORE interested in you: If you’re talking to a woman and are easygoing for the most part, a little nervousness can actually make her more endeared to you.
And almost all girls feel safe, and dare I say it, even confident around them. They hardly talk, and they’re really good at just listening to the girl. We definitely love a cute shy guy who can just watch us, smile to himself and listen to everything we have to say.
[Read: How to make a girl like you without asking her out] Do girls like shy guys? But almost always, girls fall for a shy guy when they’re still in school or college, and definitely not in a workplace.
Let’s get some context in a platonic situation, so you can see that a little nervousness is not bad: If you’ve just met a man at work, for example, who for the most part seems comfortable in his own skin, but now and again might get a little flustered for whatever reason, do you really fault him for that?
It’s different if he is constantly and completely nervous. However, if there’s only a nervous moment every now and then, it becomes kind of endearing.
What’s likely, though, is that you are generally laid-back and only every now and then have a nervous moment.