The man, also pretending to be busy and not desperate, will generally follow a “three-day rule” in waiting to text the woman for a second date.
“The American game of seduction is like military strategy, and it makes mincemeat of any innocent, lighthearted European daring to set foot in the land of pragmatic romance.” Dating, French language sources say, is every bit as bad as American TV series have led the French public to believe.. May the advice prove useful to those attempting to date à la américaine, and for Americans — who really ought to discover how other cultures see their romance manqué.
The “rules” and differences between French and American dating culture are definitely there, but if you don’t know about them, you might end up hurt and confused or leave someone else feeling that way.
So here’s a handy guide on some of the things you need to know about dating a French guy.
They have various expressions for the act; rouler une pelle — to turn the spatula — is particularly popular.
Madame Figaro reminds French women in the States to not send the first SMS after an encounter, so as not to seem “desperate”.
The word déïte — as the French phonetically spell it — doesn’t have an exact translation. “I would try to tell [American] guys, ‘I’m French; I don’t date,'” says a French expat in California, interviewed by Madame Figaro, “but it didn’t work.