I was rejected and abandoned by someone very close to me, someone I trusted closely with secrets, struggles, and victories in life. But the question I asked myself in the wake of my betrayal was: What internal anguish did Jesus feel, grappling with the reality that Judas had sold him out?The pain of the betrayal was intense, and I longed to be understood by colleagues and others close to me. We often respond to abandonment or betrayal in anger, by dwelling on the circumstances. I had been a great employee; I was even awarded Employee of the Month!After awhile, I became the person who knew the job inside and out, and could do it in my sleep. According to the Workplace Bullying Institute, targets are usually independent, ethical, nurturing, "'go-to' veteran workers to whom new employees turn for guidance." That was me in a nutshell.
In my case, my coworker was eventually promoted to shift lead, and treated me like I was incompetent — overreacting to small mistakes (even those which I quickly and easily fixed without incident). STAGE THREE: Turning point This is where it gets personal.STAGE ONE: Initial incident This could be anything, including being hired into a new position.The bully may be jealous, feel threatened, feel you wronged them in some way, or be experiencing turmoil in their personal life.In a 2006 survey published by the Society for Human Resource Management and Career Journal.com, 80% of human resources professionals and 60% of employees polled said that there should not be a romance between a supervisor and subordinate.(Interestingly, that 80% for HR professionals represented an increase from the prior year’s results while the 60% for employees represented a 10% decrease.) And only 26% of employees polled believe that romance at work should not be between people with a significant rank difference.