I have to reject the second dimension as being less than a sacred marriage, something unworthy of fighting about, and something rejected by Scripture (“What causes fights and quarrels among you?
…You want something but don’t get it.” James 4:1, 2). So she doesn’t “give way” and allow him to maintain a separate sexual life apart from their intimacy.
Within this article I have posted some information from that book along with information from other publications of theirs that I believe will be of interest to many people and, in my opinion, should be made public.
When I was a member, I remembered hearing of this publication and being very fascinated by it as the elders of the various congregations within the Jehovah’s Witness organization are advised never to let anyone who is not in the position of elder and above to see this book called .
It is referred to as the Elders Manual; an instructional manual for those men chosen to be in leadership of their assigned congregation and teaches how they should handle cases of misconduct in the congregation, among other things.
I cannot tell you exactly why this handbook is treated as a secret.
But let’s be honest here, they really can not understand how important it is. If you do not, you do not understand what the fuss is and you think those who believe are naive. We are here on this earth to help each other find meaning in life. If someone can not see there is complex stratification of reality, I would drop them like a bad habit. If you are married, understand this, everyone has the light of God in them even if they do not see in themselves.If you are just dating, I personally would cut my loses. Two people of different natures if they stay together will often become very good friends, but birds of a feature flock together.There is no substitute for two solitudes in life that come together with this same vision. Further they do not understand why it is important to you and why you even need to bring it up.It is like trying to show a dog a rainbow (dogs are colorblind). But you do not have to push the issue, but rather gently guide them.
If you both have trust in the universe you can share your spiritual journey together, in good times and in bad.