have estimated that we're willing to both kiss and sleep with someone after just two to five dates.
That means after six short dates, 20-somethings are bound to have kissed, had sex multiple times and spent cumulatively an entire day with the person they're just beginning to date.
Once there is a commitment, who knows what's next, marriage? Yes, even when considering asking "Would you be my girlfriend? It's not uncommon for a guy to suggest to his girl to become something more than just a girl in his life only to get laughter in response.
Perhaps she was trying to be cool, yet it somewhat backfired given the sensitive male ego that comes with the territory.
What is challenging though, is to sustain the excitement and romance of the initial dating period, once you are in that 'where is it going? And then of course dealing with that odd period of 'what are we, are we a girlfriend and a boyfriend'?
Given that more often than not, guys are 'happy just to be', and girls are really up for the 'girlfriend' and 'boyfriend' tag to be attached, that shadowy period or the time when the decision is being made... Equally popping the question and asking us to be their girlfriend can be very painful to guys.
They officially declare themselves a couple after nine dates, on average.
Here are 17 ways to tell if you’re exclusive without having to ask. If your plans regularly include socializing with their friends and co-workers, it’s a terrific sign that you’re exclusive. He refers to relationship as “we” when talking about future plans. Most people don’t say “I love you” until they really mean it. When he doesn’t look at you as temporary, he’ll let you know if his plans include possibly living together, marriage, and will want to make sure you know that you’ll be together for events and holidays months down the line. Your Facebook page includes photos of the two of you. When either of you hears from an ex and it makes you uncomfortable, you’ll both realize you’re not open to the possibilities with them and won’t want to lose what you’ve got. If the two of you hold hands in public, even in front of business associates and family, signs of affection will show the world you’re taken. If he’s making plans with you for his birthday and Valentine’s Day, which are important days for women, you’ll know there isn’t anyone else but you. If you’re under the weather and this person at your side with chicken soup, flowers, and would rather nurse you back to health than hang out with their friends, it’s their way of saying that you’re a keeper. There’s no way he’d want another love interest noticing your presence in his home. He lets his ex know he’s in a serious relationship.
When couples start to talk about vacations, holiday plans, or even booking theatre tickets months out and he says, “We should go to this,” then you’ll know you’re more than just a plus one for an office party. Sure some people easily say “I love you” for sex, but if you’re together five or more nights a week, talk and text every day, and they profess their love for you, chances are they mean it. He brags about you and introduces you to his female friends. When you’re in an exclusive relationship, just being together cuddling, watching television, or spooning at night shows how comfortable he is in having you in his life. While some people aren’t quick to change their relationship status until they’re engaged or married, if their Facebook page includes multiple photos of the two of you embraced as a couple, it sends a message to friends and others that they are taken and proud of it. Rather than being sneaky about it, your guy will feel comfortable enough in your relationship to tell you about it, rather than sneaking into another room to respond to the text. While some people make clean breaks with their ex, others still have occasional contact.
So you’ve been dating one special person for a few months now, but haven’t had the courage to have “the talk” about exclusivity. If he or she shakes at the thought of labels and won’t define your relationship as “girlfriend” and “boyfriend,” it’s a red sign that your relationship just hasn’t become exclusive yet and they might be keeping other options open. Why bother looking for someone else when you’re clearly off the market and you’ve won the prize? If someone wants to make the relationship exclusive, they won’t be logging on while you’re asleep to stare at emails and photos of others. When someone wants to date others, they’ll leave one of the weekend nights available.
While some people make their intentions known and agree to becoming exclusive at a certain point, others go with the flow with the hope that they’ll become his or her one and only, even before becoming Facebook official. When someone is really into you and has made you their steady squeeze, they won’t be hiding you and will be proud to show you off. When your significant other stops introducing you as just a friend and it’s replaced with BF or GF publicly, chances are you’re the one-and-only. When you’re excited about being together every weekend, you should know that you’re the one-and-only. You’ve whispered those three special words of “I love you” to each other. If he’s playing the field, all the ladies will know it’s his birthday and will want to be by his side. Not every day is filled with hearts, bells, and whistles. From a toothbrush to an extra set of panties and makeup, when your sweetie carves out a place in his closet or bathroom for you and vice versa, you’ll know it’s serious.
Think of how many of the Six dates might not seem like enough to build intimacy, much less prompt an exclusivity conversation.