That’s why it’s important to note that the act of seduction, never truly ends.Men are guilty of having a wandering eye too, no surprise there, but the fact that women have way more opportunities to meet members of the opposite sex than men do, means that the temptation to be led astray is all the more prevalent.Before continuing with this column, please review the preamble included at the beginning of this series, "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." * * * PART 3: Just Friends » As Christians in dating relationships, we want to avoid hurting one another and dishonoring Christ by "defrauding" (see NASB translation of 1 Thessalonians 4:6) our brothers and sisters in Christ by implying — through word or action — a higher level of commitment to that person than we have made before God.Because this sort of (perhaps unintentional) deception is a particular temptation in a dating context, we need to be deliberate about avoiding it.Until you are ready for marriage, ask God to lead you in developing friendships with Godly men and women, but do not try to win the affections of those friends.When a man senses God leading him to pursue marriage with a particular woman, he should seek counsel from God-given authorities.
By healthy, we mean both parties know who they are, have worked out their past baggage, have been walking in purity, are known in community and live a full life.Never get comfortable or complacent with your woman, and she’ll never have a reason to look elsewhere for what she wants. You may have reached a point where you think that you’re inseparable, and no amount of Xbox marathons, or lazy date ideas will turn her off to you. It’s healthy to be comfortable around your girl, but it needs to be tantamount to maintaining her interest.Flirting, for example, isn’t just a strategy that you should use to get a girl to sleep with you.The first thing that should happen if it has not happened during the initiation of the relationship is that intentions should be established.Whatever that conversation looks like, intentions should be clear and it should be the man making them so.
In a society where one-night stands are the norm, and relationships are regarded as disposable, how should we approach dating? In their eyes, dating is done solely for recreation and with no thought for future consequences.